Reality 101

 You get up to start your day. It's not early in the morning like most people your age, it's much later. You hop into your car that you bought through your savings made from your job, your personal business, yes you're a lucky star. You order something nice to eat, you have nice things to wear, life is pretty much organised, you have it all planned out and everything is in accordance, no sweat.
But it doesn't go that way for some others and i just realized. I found out some reality that someone didn't show up at work because of cash for transport, no jokes guys.Speaking of being grateful for small mercies.

The power of resilience paid off to a lady that sat beside me in a bus one fine day. "Abeg, how much be from here to Charity bustop" "Na N100, if you no get change abeg come down oh" "Haba, na N50 i dey enter am, i never pay N100" "Omo u go pay that N100 oh, we don dey inside bus since you no talk, na when we don dey almost reach u dey talk say na N50 u wan pay" "Oga i never pay N100 since i dey enter bus from here reach Charity, i no fit pay am oh". I sat waiting to see what would unfold. By now the driver who had angrily parked by the roadside joined in to attack and bully her with threats of pushing her out of the bus. She remained undaunted, not caring that she was dealing with brash people who weren't cultured. Surprisingly they dragged till she got to her bus top and the conductor and driver let her go. I was marvelled because most ladies would have given up and paid the balance, knowing how violent these people can be. Speaking of breaking free form the norm and being bold.

"I really thought i was going to get that contract, the team liked me, you know things have been gloomy for this my food business since i started. I thought this was it!" "Don't worry Tobi, it wasn't meant to be joo. Don't mind that woman. She used another company, her birthday pictures were trending". Little did she know that her friend got the client's contact on Instagram, sent the client a dm, telling her a million reasons why she shouldn't use her friends'catering business for her upcoming event. The client who didn't want to risk it, decided to use another vendor instead. Speaking of a frenemy, who shows all the care but harbors hatred and strikes when opportuned.

The divergence in reality and illusion...

Are You the Side Chick?

 Sometimes you think he is all yours, but babe think twice, he has other plans! Everybody likes to be exclusively loved, you know, belonging to one particular person and that person only, but that does not rule out the fact that it doesn't entirely work like that all the time.
Women especially are quite emotional and clingy, it's just in our nature; we are born good lovers! Back to the topic, just because you don't know you're the side chick, doesn't mean that you're not *side eye*. Today, I'm going to give you some red flag signs that would help you deduce if you are or not, brace yourself!

He is not available on special days; like Val's day, his birthday, your birthday and holidays. If you call him on his birthday, there is no excitement , it's just a flat baritone voice on the other end of the line.

He is not calling you his girlfriend; when he wants to introduce you to his friends, colleagues or even relatives. He just introduces you by your name.

Trust your instincts; if you feel he doesn't have your time, cut yourself off to prevent stories that touch.

He's protective of his phone; due to his player syndrome and also passwords his phone to prevent easy access.

He's always busy; and when he makes out time for you, it is quite minimal. He comes at odd times and leaves almost immediately, preventing you both from spending quality time together. You rarely get a text from him and he doesn't call back immediately, if he misses your call.

You randomly cannot meet up with him; every meeting must be fore planned and there isn't room for last minute showups.

He's never angry if you cancel; instead of being angry if you cancel a date with him, he is somewhat relieved *ironical right*? He never gets jealous of other guys around you as well!

You don't know his family or friends; thus you're unfamiliar with his inner circles, instead you're the one he complains to about a particular girl ( i.e the main chick! )

He doesn't connect with you on an emotional or mental level; it is all about the physical, how your body looks good or what he wants to do to your body.

You rarely go out to public places together; no date night because he doesn't want to be seen by someone he knows! No holding of hands in public places or public display of affection.

Above all, he has no future plans for you; ask him "what plans do you have for me?" his dodgy response would be "don't worry, just watch".

Babes, if you are experiencing a few of this tips, shine your eyes and do something as soon as possible, advisably leave that relationship (situationship, lol).

Remember, who run the world, girls!!!

Relationship Brouhaha

I was getting settled as the day rolled by when a friend of mine texted me "babe how far, you know that feeling when you meet a new person and all that anticipation that follows!"
I replied her, "I could totally relate to that..."

Endlessly receiving calls, burning out airtime till it's finished then switching to chatting on social media! You both are beaming with excitement at the inception and you both tickle each others fancy!
It then gets to a point where you no longer listen to your instincts, infact you practically numb them sef! Then you start doing things out of your way,out of your comfort zone, out of the very ordinary just because your into this person and hope for a possible relationship!

Then my friend texted me "I'm sad babe,i really don't understand the guy oh,it's like he has brain touch! Been waiting, no text, no call, nothing! he doesn't even return my calls,what is wrong with me now?"
I could tell she liked the guy and she was sad that things were not working out like she hoped.
Then I figured! When emotions begin to creep in, one party just goes MIA, like that! It becomes a case of ending before it even started...
Then your left alone deep in thought, analyzing, trying to recap everything from when you both met, trying to figure out if there was something you did or didn't do!  Then finally placing the other person in an elevated place while you are below seeking for the person's face and before you know it your gradually loosing yourself.

What's your closest to being in an anticipated relationship, mine was quite...*wink*