Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Stalker Alert!

He walks up to you, you're trying to be polite. Mind you, you might be in a situation, maybe out of a broken relationship or struggling with self esteem, or something, because that is when one is most susceptible. He begins to talk to you, to meander himself into you and your zone, your world. Still, thanks to whatever it is your going through (although sometimes you don't necessarily have to go through anything), you will still try to be nice and accommodating. He then begins to think in his mind, " oh, she likes me, she's listening to me" and thus it propels him to continue. At some point, you begin to feel uneasy and from uneasiness, it might move to irritation. But still he doesn't stop.
Let's assume you're going somewhere, he begins to follow you, heading to your direction, still professing "love" for you! Before you know it, your irritation has blown out of proportion and probably bursted on his sorry face, then you go all ballistic!
I took time out to further research on stalking, where I got some interesting findings.
Firstly, what is stalking? It is an obsessive attention which leads to harassment,  (which may not be physical) as well as intimidation (which may not necessarily be to put down or suppress) but to overwhelm in an irritating and disgusting manner.
Stalking, includes following the victim around in person or monitoring her (in this case). Infact, virtually any unwanted contact between two people, that directly or indirectly communicates fear to one party(victim). Stalking is a form of mental assault in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, disruptively and persistently breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom he has no relationship with.

In "A Study of Stalkers" Mullen et all (2002), there are five (5) types of stalkers.

Rejected Stalkers who pursue their victims in order to reverse, correct or avenge rejection.

Resentful Stalkers who are motivated mainly by the desire to frighten and distress the victim.

Intimacy Seekers who seek to establish an intimate, loving relationship with their victim, and believe that they have found their long sought after soulmate. They also suffer from erotomania.

Incompetent Suitor whose victims are already in a dating relationship with someone else and then, they feel a sense of entitlement over their victim (as in the case of that J-Lo movie"The boy next door", y'all should see it!)

Predatory Stalkers who spy on their victim, in order to prepare, plan and attack them! (scary right!)

Well guys, please if you notice anyone with slight traces of stalker alert, or any of the above traces, pick your shoes, dust them and run!!!
Have you experienced anything close to being stalked?



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