Sunday, 3 May 2015

Are You the Side Chick?

 Sometimes you think he is all yours, but babe think twice, he has other plans! Everybody likes to be exclusively loved, you know, belonging to one particular person and that person only, but that does not rule out the fact that it doesn't entirely work like that all the time.
Women especially are quite emotional and clingy, it's just in our nature; we are born good lovers! Back to the topic, just because you don't know you're the side chick, doesn't mean that you're not *side eye*. Today, I'm going to give you some red flag signs that would help you deduce if you are or not, brace yourself!

He is not available on special days; like Val's day, his birthday, your birthday and holidays. If you call him on his birthday, there is no excitement , it's just a flat baritone voice on the other end of the line.

He is not calling you his girlfriend; when he wants to introduce you to his friends, colleagues or even relatives. He just introduces you by your name.

Trust your instincts; if you feel he doesn't have your time, cut yourself off to prevent stories that touch.

He's protective of his phone; due to his player syndrome and also passwords his phone to prevent easy access.

He's always busy; and when he makes out time for you, it is quite minimal. He comes at odd times and leaves almost immediately, preventing you both from spending quality time together. You rarely get a text from him and he doesn't call back immediately, if he misses your call.

You randomly cannot meet up with him; every meeting must be fore planned and there isn't room for last minute showups.

He's never angry if you cancel; instead of being angry if you cancel a date with him, he is somewhat relieved *ironical right*? He never gets jealous of other guys around you as well!

You don't know his family or friends; thus you're unfamiliar with his inner circles, instead you're the one he complains to about a particular girl ( i.e the main chick! )

He doesn't connect with you on an emotional or mental level; it is all about the physical, how your body looks good or what he wants to do to your body.

You rarely go out to public places together; no date night because he doesn't want to be seen by someone he knows! No holding of hands in public places or public display of affection.

Above all, he has no future plans for you; ask him "what plans do you have for me?" his dodgy response would be "don't worry, just watch".

Babes, if you are experiencing a few of this tips, shine your eyes and do something as soon as possible, advisably leave that relationship (situationship, lol).

Remember, who run the world, girls!!!

Friday, 1 May 2015

Block Head...

 It's been so long and I'm so sorryyyyy!!! I don't know how to start explaining, but I took a break which went on longer than I had envisaged. To worsen it, when I decided to resume back writing, I was so nervous and panicky, I decided not to think about writing. I wondered what was wrong with me and realised that I was experiencing my first bout of "Writers Block"!!! Suddenly my ever bubbling writing personality was stalled and I ran out of inspiration,
I decided to research about this issue and realised that the human mind and brain works in sync and under some form of stress, the human brain will shift control from the cerebral cortex to the limbic system. The limited input from the cerebral cortex hinders a person's creative process and ability and thus is replaced by the behaviours associated with the limbic system (put on your science thinking caps and go and read about it, lol!). I totally wasn't able to produce any new work and I creatively slowed down, couldn't even open up my page to write on, distracted by other events; events that were totally momentary, quite transient.
Finally, I was able to do it! I summoned valour upon myself and opened the page, read past posts and knew that I had an obligation firstly to myself, then to you all my esteemed readers and blog visitors.


We all have dreams and aspirations in life and just as writers block is just a challenge bent on thwarting one's literary dream, there are also other challenges and adverse conditions that may occur in other facets of life such as physical illness, disappointments from friends, dashed expectations, depression, failure, end of a relationship, financial struggles or just plain failure in totality; all of which must be overcome by courage and some form of willingness. Never let it stop you again!

I am wholesomely glad that I'm back fully and hopefully not going anywhere *wink*  love ya all my lovelies*hugs*