Naija Bus Etiquette 101

Yes, there is something called bus etiquette and it doesn't exist in Naija!!!

One fine day I entered a bus oh, did my usual quick survey of the passengers with my eyes to know if I'm in a safe bus.
Then my eyes jammed with a guy who was with two of his friends and he gave me a funny smile that I didn't understand... The bus was almost full and they sat at the last row of seat. I looked away quickly and sat down at the seat directly in front of him which was the third row.
I was thinking what was behind the smile and funny face...The bus had not moved a long distance when I began to feel something like a weird movement on my lower back near my waist!
I froze oh for a second. What could be happening! Then I adjusted,moved forward, and was away from the backrest of the chair. A lot of things were going through my mind...Did the guy smile to me ahead to make it known to me that he was going to be a pest through out the ride! Did he feel I was the right prey for such his silly actions? Did I look so gentle that he could do whatever he felt to me without me reacting? Was I going to remain calm and manage till I get to my bus stop?
I was still dealing with my thoughts oh when I felt a stronger touch below my waist! He was reaching for the *#!  to probably grab it!!! Mehn I turned back and gave him the hardest stare ever! His face was just emotionless,straight and unreadable, like he hadn't done a thing! What pretense!
I moved forward so much that I was even making the person in front of me uncomfortable... This guy was unrelenting oh. Next thing I looked up, I was almost close to my bus stop, I was relieved...
I still sensed his hands there. Since I knew I was coming down soon I slipped my right hand backwards and lo I felt his fingers! I quickly grabbed them and with all the strength I had in me plus the irritation he had caused me, I squeezed and twisted the life out of them, poor fingers! He screamed a little but composed himself oh...
Next thing I was at my bus stop and I screamed from where I sat " o wa oh, conductor". I came down and quickly turned around to look at him, see his face full of disbelief! His friends nko, they were looking at me like I dropped from another planet,lol!

In Lagos, 3 fat people occupying a 4-seater bus, has no sympathy for the 1 slim person sitting with them...worse off if the person is in the middle, chai squeezing of life!
Or your sitting in a bus and someone is practically rubbing their sweaty body on you! Your trying to be nice and not cause an argument, you just keep adjusting or preferably sit tightly together like a sardine!

What has been your worse bus experience?

Relationship Brouhaha

I was getting settled as the day rolled by when a friend of mine texted me "babe how far, you know that feeling when you meet a new person and all that anticipation that follows!"
I replied her, "I could totally relate to that..."

Endlessly receiving calls, burning out airtime till it's finished then switching to chatting on social media! You both are beaming with excitement at the inception and you both tickle each others fancy!
It then gets to a point where you no longer listen to your instincts, infact you practically numb them sef! Then you start doing things out of your way,out of your comfort zone, out of the very ordinary just because your into this person and hope for a possible relationship!

Then my friend texted me "I'm sad babe,i really don't understand the guy oh,it's like he has brain touch! Been waiting, no text, no call, nothing! he doesn't even return my calls,what is wrong with me now?"
I could tell she liked the guy and she was sad that things were not working out like she hoped.
Then I figured! When emotions begin to creep in, one party just goes MIA, like that! It becomes a case of ending before it even started...
Then your left alone deep in thought, analyzing, trying to recap everything from when you both met, trying to figure out if there was something you did or didn't do!  Then finally placing the other person in an elevated place while you are below seeking for the person's face and before you know it your gradually loosing yourself.

What's your closest to being in an anticipated relationship, mine was quite...*wink*

Unnecessary Flirtations...

This time, we are looking at unnecessary flirtations at work...
How do you deal with such! Knowing fully well that one spends most of one's day here... Imagine this, your gainfuly employed somewhere, your enjoying your job,it seems really cool and all of a sudden, little by little you begin to get funny stares from one or two of the opposite sex in your office! It goes further to funny lewd comments and sometimes unnecessary brushes of skin!
Wait for this, what if it's the boss, like the main oga of the company , calling you telling you that your chairman's baby , you know, telling you that you should go to the movies or go on a lunch date with him*faints*
Anyway, I feel one should always draw the line especially at work... One should know when flirtations are becoming unnecessary and cut it off immediately!  Quitting the job is not an option especially in Nigeria where things are somewhat hard, but it could be if the situation becomes cumbersome....

Ever being flirted with unnecessarily at work?  How did you deal with that stinging situation!

Personality Barrier!

Are there things you would love to do, but just can't because of your personality! Yhh, your guess is as good as mine...
At times you just want to let your guard down,let your hair loose, free your mind and be in control of something and not be bothered, yhh!
But sometimes the fear of the unknown and the thought of the consequence of such a move kind of halts you and makes you not feel emancipated enough for such a feat.

I really feel that's all it is, a fear and a thought, which can definitely be changed! We need to live people! Do things that our personality outrightly wouldn't permit and even if its awkward,well we'll deal with it * wink*
Even though I'm a sucker for foresight and weighing of actions before taking them, I have learnt to live out my life to the fullest,after all YOLO right?
Anyway,are there things you would love to do but your personality isn't permitting?

Welcome to Helen T's Blog

Hey everyone!

Welcome to my personal blog,yay!!

For a while, I have had this yearning to share my thoughts,observations and opinion about everyday events, life, love and every other thing we face daily.

Sometimes it might just be a song, a write up or a picture that tells a unique story, but I hope you will find an opportunity to escape in my posts!